Perhaps our greatest fear is not of the dissolution of self, but of owning up to Self.

"To begin with, our newly received sword-our newly grasped understanding of the mechanics of consciousness-exists predominantly as a concept, a mental construct, somewhat brittle and untried. This mental construct-like all concepts about spiritual matters-will break apart when applied to the rigors of harsh reality. The sword will fly into pieces. We will be left defenseless and with the sense that we know nothing of spiritual reality. This is a necessary part of the process, because if we know something with our minds only, we don't really know anything. It is not until we know with our hearts that we truly know." ~ Diana Durham, Return of King Arthur, 142.

Often we have a radical opening, just to find ourselves flipping back in the opposite direction. The ego and armor seem pull back ones closure around one after a radical opening. Through witnessing the openings and the closures time and time again we become aware that this vascilation is biochemically driven hyperbolic curves. Ultimately though with the radical heart expansions and associated gravity warping and acute sensory and psychic experience...we are essentially "broken open" by love.

Just to be sure those who need it get this message I am putting this tough stuff up front of this section.

Blasted Awake By the Opposite Sex In a Transpersonal Nonrelationship

We are relational beings and we don't really know how relational until kundalini considers itself bonded to another human through our flesh. If the relationship is unrequited or not "suitable" but the kundalini awakening is fired up on all cylinders from atoms right up to Godhead...this is one of the fastest, most delicious and painful methods of awakening...especially through the female body. My heart goes out to you who are triggered awake by the opposite sex. Let me tell you a few of the insights that came to me through my transpersonal non-relationship experience.
• First we quickly learn that sex is not sex. The entire universe is nothing but sex...the play of the poles, sexes, charges and hemispheres. Presovereign relationships not only start looking pretty silly, but finding an appropriate partner in the uninitiated community, well forget it. Ones moral sensitivity around the game of sex goes through the roof for many reasons...because of an increased aesthetic refinement due to higher energy frequency and heightened sensory awareness.
• Next we learn that we are not living for ourselves but are secretly working for transpersonal species imperative, and that if we neglect ourselves, our will, our mind and body, then we fail in our mission and head towards hell. So the personal cannot be ignored or the transpersonal is forfeited...this is a BIG lesson to learn for those who try to gain self-worth by overextending themselves to others.
• It may feel like hell to be fired up and about to lift off to the moon, but you must remind yourself that all that love and energy and psi is YOU! And you would probably not have been lit so bright if there was no initial trigger. The way to stop bleeding out is to claim ALL that presence, feeling, sensation and energy as you...and do not imagine that it is coming from the phantom lover. Be grateful for the trigger, but distinguish it from a workable human relationship...they are two different things.
• Use the energy to transform your life and "create." Do not fall into victim, poor little me or waste it running around trying to find a reason to feel so much love by chasing after mortals. The uninitiated will have no idea what you are going through, they cannot be "with you" and the added stress of mismatched levels will add to the already extreme load needed to process, integrate and stabilize.
• Within this energy and this awakening is a work of genius...a great gift of talent and beauty that the world can share. Getting beyond your personal story and facilitating the birth of this geni is the task of the peak period. As such we have to let go of the fairytale romance notions we carried on from childhood to embrace a more cosmic meaning and reason for our existence.
• If you don't get that the inner Beloved is YOU, then you may literally bleed your awakening away pining for Other...and may be misdirected by the energy away from a true life partner...following this energetic figment projection within. Once you know in your heart that this huge awesome energy and vast intelligence IS you, then you know how to understand the pulls and tides of the sun and moon and how they relate to pulling actual human lovers together to meet in time and space.
• You can ask the full moon when you will meet your true lover and the silent voice within may tell you when and where. Once properly directed the Inner Marriage is so complete and satisfying that it is of little consequence if you don’t actually meet a life partner for the biological “need” for another is reduced and mortal relationship loses its power to attract, persuade and convince. Detach from this individual mortal human, yes, but not from the energy of the Inner Beloved…for the Inner Beloved is you and you will feel the bliss of subtly making love to yourself as a permanent condition for life.
• The kundalini fire must continue to burn for your creativity to be alive. But women with active kundalini have to be a billion times stronger than men and the uninitiated...because it is up to us to lay the foundations of future society. Consider that it was women who conveyed the oracle of Apollo for a thousand years in the ancient classical world. It is women who are the builders of civilization, for women can more easily unify the Apollionic rational mind with the wild, pure genius of Dionysian divinity.
• Women have greater synthesis of the left and right brain because they tend to have a more active corpus callosum with 10% more neuron fibers. The increased right brain access in the female brain allows greater communication with the limbic brain, emotional and holistic perception. Thus if a women is operating true to cosmic form she is generally more in touch with universal morality and the will of lifeforce than men. It is up to women to guide us out of the grey Borg culture of death, disease and destruction and into a vivid fecund future.
• Follow your dreams and do not underestimate how asleep the crowd is...for they do not have their senses about them.

"True love takes its own course through uncharted territory. It knows no fences, has no barriers or boundaries. It's difficult to define, eludes modern measurement, and seems scientifically wooly. But I know true love exists. I just can't prove it." ~ David Buss

There is an extremely volatile and complex human predicament involved with activated kundalini, perhaps more so than any other aspect of being human. Because it involves the radical amplification, derepression, nexus and shakeup of ourselves in relation to our world, it is the raw edge of existence! Metamorphosis, for all its fire and flash is completely useless if undergone at the expense of genuine human relationships. That it is relationship, not enlightenment that is important, and that enlightenment involves skillful relationship.

"Some day, after we have mastered the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness...the energies of love. Then, for the second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire." ~ Pierre Theilhard de Chardin

Both Jung and Sri Aurobindo believed that the soul is both individual and universal and that the physical and psychic exist simultaneously. Supra-sex you could say is the spiritual intercourse of the Global Brain—the communion of the overmind or Superman (Aurobindo). This communion is superluminal, nonlocal and probably involves instantaneous communication via scalar waves or sympathetic resonance. Supra-sex is a mysterious subatomic force that spans the globe. The experience of supra-sex makes it apparent to us irreverent humans that we live in a spiritual universe, an intelligent universe, far more profound than we could possibly imagine. There is nothing more powerful than the force of Supra-sex. It is the force of evolution and consciousness itself, the energy at the ground of manifestation. Future generations will know more about and honor it more deeply than us, for slowly humanity is being awakened by this evolutionary force.

It is apparent that the separate self sense is a low energy condition and sex sometimes raises our energy enough so that the veil of separation falls. Then it is like looking at the world, or ones lover with the eyes of a child. Stepping into cosmic levels of consciousness is very much like that... the intense love, awe and gratitude, coupled with the sense that "I never knew it could be like this."

"When our desire to continue distracting ourselves from our suffering becomes weaker (or is permitted less control) than our desire to be truly free, we are magnetically drawn to Awakening's alchemy, letting the fires of its crucible provide us with both heat and light." 181, ~ Robert Augustus Masters, Darkness Shining Wild.

Dionysus is an epidemic god, he spreads like a contagion into areas which have had little exposure to him. We ignite those around us simply with our presence while kundalini is active. "...a power that works directly from matter to matter, or from body to body, without mental intervention. Like a contagion. That is the supramental power." 251 ~ Mother, Satprem

It is helpful especially during the peak of kundalini awakening to give a name to our kundalini energy, and another name to our ego-I. By personalizing the energies in this way we are more likely to be conscious of the rising of kundalini and to relax the ego-I, thus preventing an exhausting war between these two opposing factions.

"Ultimately there are no obstacles anywhere, except in ourselves and everything is meant for that perfection." P.197, ~ Mother, Satprem

The kind of kundalini awakening we have is specific to the way we have built ourselves. The scrapes and bruises life offers are beneficial also; all is fuel for the flames. We complicate matters due to our misunderstanding about kundalini and the religious superstition that has been lumped on the process over the centuries. Thus it's up to people that have initiated kundalini to share their experience with others, in order to reduce the ignorance. While kundalini is active we ignite those around us simply with our presence with a power that works directly from body to body, heart to heart--like a contagion.

We do not have metamorphosis, metamorphosis "has" us. Because metamorphosis assumes precedence over other life processes it will continue by drawing energy from other functions. This loss of normal function could pose as a crisis for those whose circumstances cannot accommodate such a shift. A steady increase in the difficulty of meaningful work is perhaps one of the most essential components of navigating the storm of awakening successfully and re-integrating oneself into purposeful relationship to the world. The fact that we are most often forced to make a living is a saving grace to those recovering from kundalini for it forces us out in relation to the world. Studies show that doing complex work as a main occupation lowers our risk of Alzheimer's disease. The researchers theorize that performing complex tasks may have an exercise-like effect that builds up the "cognitive reserve" in the brain. This is reinforcement for the old axiom "what you don't use you lose."

This is a summary of some obsticals we might encounter on our journey toward supreme consciousness. We are each a spectrum of various degrees of the pitfalls that make up our shadow side. The shadow playing into the light and the light playing into the shadow. Love-consciousness would be the light side that is half of who we are, would it not? The darkside would be the recalcitrant neglect of cues from body-mind-soul-muse regarding the appropriate care and love-consciousness for self or other. Shadow is perhaps the separate-self-sense's blind concern and focus on that which stops the heart from expanding to infinity.

Kundalini and our beliefs about God and spirituality are not important. What is of ultimate value to us is Life, love and relationship. If our kundalini and our beliefs are interfering with our Life, love and relationship then we must do everything within our power of awareness to rectify this situation.

1-Pathological Regression

Retreat into infantile prerational uroboric fusion. Indulgence in dissolution and fragmentation; often due to lack of modeling, support, structure or clearly defined developmental framework of ascent that covers all sides of the whole human (survival, somatic, emotional, social, spiritual). Desire to let ones life collapse in the hope of being rescued. Retreat into depression and grief to escape more expansive perception and profound sense of being

2-Running Away

The fire once ignited must take precedence over all else.

The first mantra of the Rig Veda says: "I invoke the fire and place it in the forefront." This can be interpreted in many ways, but for someone in the throws of a kundalini awakening it is invaluable to remember this first mantra. For the fire of kundalini works for our salvation and the evolution of the species. To "go into" the fire is the moral choice, while to fight it is counter to our own true nature and Self-actualization. Thus no matter what the challenge the fire puts us through, we must walk into the flame, and let it awaken us to a reality beyond the past and the known.

Relaxing into the Witness beyond thought, the mind and the known self is the main process of spiritual evolution. Meditation allows the Witness to slowly differentiate from the ego/memory-self so this change in self-sense is manageable. However kundalini awakenings, drugs, falling in love and contact with a Guru, can force such rapid expansion that a "growth" crisis occurs. You could call this "necessary disorientation;" though through various experiences on the journey we learn that the Witness is still there even in catatonia, even when there is no ego or motor coordination.

Ken Wilber says enlightenment is the number one priority because only "enlightened action" transforms and we need transformation more than mere translation. However joining a sangha, going to endless weekend retreats, yoga lessons and therapies seems like self-indulgent dilly-dallying while Rome burns.

Teilhard de Chardin said that transformation is the Triumph of Spirit. This Triumph of Spirit is not brought about through inflated Boomer world-saving projects or get rich quick schemes. The Triumph of Spirit is the empowerment of the body, mind, heart and soul toward action that reflects the Good, the True and the Beautiful...(or God).